如何讓自己顯得更易于接近(視頻)
作者：跳跳虎
來源：videojug
2010-06-09 15:03
Here is VideoJug's guide to looking more approachable. Judi James, our body language expert and author of 'Body talk At Home', shows you how to send out the right signals so you come across as approachable and as someone everyone wants to meet.
如何讓自己看上去易于接觸？Videojug給你支幾招。朱迪詹姆斯，《Body Talk At Home》一書的作者，Videojug的肢體語言專家顧問，向你介紹如何向他人發(fā)出正確的信號，讓你顯得平易近人，讓他人都愿與你交往。
Step 1: Body barriers
These signal to people to leave you alone and make you seem extremely unapproachable. Therefore, avoid folded arms or gestures such as holding a drink close to your chin as it implies to the other person you'd rather be left alone.
These signal to people to leave you alone and make you seem extremely unapproachable. Therefore, avoid folded arms or gestures such as holding a drink close to your chin as it implies to the other person you'd rather be left alone.
1.避免使用阻擋性肢體語言
阻擋性的肢體語言會向?qū)Ψ桨l(fā)出這樣一個(gè)信號：走開，我喜歡獨(dú)處。這會使你顯得非常的難以接近。因此，不要合攏手臂，也不要手拿酒杯，貼近下巴。因?yàn)檫@些行為舉止都會向他人暗示，你喜歡作獨(dú)行俠。
阻擋性的肢體語言會向?qū)Ψ桨l(fā)出這樣一個(gè)信號：走開，我喜歡獨(dú)處。這會使你顯得非常的難以接近。因此，不要合攏手臂，也不要手拿酒杯，貼近下巴。因?yàn)檫@些行為舉止都會向他人暗示，你喜歡作獨(dú)行俠。
Step 2: Use your eyes
Your eyes can signal approachability. Don't stare or just look at the floor, but scan the room with your eyes as this shows that you are open to approach.
Your eyes can signal approachability. Don't stare or just look at the floor, but scan the room with your eyes as this shows that you are open to approach.
2.眼睛要動
你的眼睛能告訴別人你是不是一個(gè)易于接近的人。不要盯著對方看，也不要一直觀賞地板，而要用眼睛環(huán)顧這個(gè)房間，因?yàn)檫@樣會顯得你已敞開心扉，愿與他人交往。
你的眼睛能告訴別人你是不是一個(gè)易于接近的人。不要盯著對方看，也不要一直觀賞地板，而要用眼睛環(huán)顧這個(gè)房間，因?yàn)檫@樣會顯得你已敞開心扉，愿與他人交往。
Step 3: Smile with your eyes
Soften your eye expression and don't be blank or vacant, as smiling with your eyes really does show that you are friendly.
Soften your eye expression and don't be blank or vacant, as smiling with your eyes really does show that you are friendly.
3.眼帶微笑
眼光放得柔和一點(diǎn)，并且眼睛也需帶點(diǎn)表情，因?yàn)檠蹘⑿Υ_實(shí)能夠表示你很友好。
眼光放得柔和一點(diǎn)，并且眼睛也需帶點(diǎn)表情，因?yàn)檠蹘⑿Υ_實(shí)能夠表示你很友好。
Step 4: Smiling with the mouth
This is an evolutionary aspect, an animal signal of introduction. A nice, genuine smile shows again that you mean to be friendly.
This is an evolutionary aspect, an animal signal of introduction. A nice, genuine smile shows again that you mean to be friendly.
4.嘴角露出一絲微笑
說話時(shí)，嘴角掛上一絲微笑是人類進(jìn)化的結(jié)果。動物用此表情來表達(dá)“介紹”之意。甜美、真切的笑容亦能展現(xiàn)你友好的初衷。
說話時(shí)，嘴角掛上一絲微笑是人類進(jìn)化的結(jié)果。動物用此表情來表達(dá)“介紹”之意。甜美、真切的笑容亦能展現(xiàn)你友好的初衷。
Step 5: Intentional gestures
These make communication easier. When shaking hands, put your hand out at a distance and not at the last minute as this encourages more of a response. When you want to interrupt, raising your hand slightly will signal to people that you want to speak.
These make communication easier. When shaking hands, put your hand out at a distance and not at the last minute as this encourages more of a response. When you want to interrupt, raising your hand slightly will signal to people that you want to speak.
5.使用一些通用的手勢
這些肢體語言使人們之間的溝通更簡單了。和別人握手時(shí)，手要伸出去一定的距離。不要等到最后一刻才伸出手來，因?yàn)檫@里涉及到就不僅僅是反應(yīng)的問題了。當(dāng)你要打斷對方時(shí)，稍稍抬抬手，對方就知道你要講話了。
這些肢體語言使人們之間的溝通更簡單了。和別人握手時(shí)，手要伸出去一定的距離。不要等到最后一刻才伸出手來，因?yàn)檫@里涉及到就不僅僅是反應(yīng)的問題了。當(dāng)你要打斷對方時(shí)，稍稍抬抬手，對方就知道你要講話了。
Step 6: Self-comfort gestures
You do these when feeling anxious or under pressure, and it makes it seem as if you don't want to speak to people. Also beware of metronomic gestures such as foot tapping, as these signal to people that you are impatient and do not have time for them.
You do these when feeling anxious or under pressure, and it makes it seem as if you don't want to speak to people. Also beware of metronomic gestures such as foot tapping, as these signal to people that you are impatient and do not have time for them.
6.少做自我安慰性的動作
當(dāng)你感到慌張或者感到壓力時(shí)，你會做一些自我安慰性的動作。但這些動作會顯得你好像不想和別人說話。還要注意，不要老做諸如頓足之類的帶有節(jié)拍的小動作，因?yàn)檫@些動作會讓人覺得你不耐煩，或者沒時(shí)間和他們聊了。
當(dāng)你感到慌張或者感到壓力時(shí)，你會做一些自我安慰性的動作。但這些動作會顯得你好像不想和別人說話。還要注意，不要老做諸如頓足之類的帶有節(jié)拍的小動作，因?yàn)檫@些動作會讓人覺得你不耐煩，或者沒時(shí)間和他們聊了。
Notes：
subliminal：adj. ?下意識的, 潛在意識的
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