1. Start with a handshake
1.先握手

A proper handshake conveys trust, respect, and equality. Make eye contact, smile, and shake from the elbow.
1.適當(dāng)?shù)奈帐帜鼙磉_(dá)信任、尊重和平等，要有眼神交流、微笑，握手時(shí)肘部用力。

2. First, look for singletons
2.首先，要選獨(dú)處的人

People standing by themselves are the best option to approach. Two people standing shoulder-to-shoulder and groups of people that are closed off in a tight circle are likely not open to newcomers.
獨(dú)自站著的人最適合接近。肩并肩站著的兩個(gè)人和圍成小圈子的一群人可能不歡迎外人。

3. Practice on Your Server
3.找服務(wù)員練習(xí)

If what you’re most nervous about is being ignored, test the waters by chatting up a waiter, waitress, barista, or bartendert.
如果你害怕被人忽視，可以找男女服務(wù)員、咖啡師或者酒保搭話(huà)。

4. Offer your name, and repeat theirs
4.主動(dòng)說(shuō)出自己的名字并重復(fù)對(duì)方的名字

Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language. Start a conversation like “Hi, my name is Jane. What’s yours?” When the person responds, repeat their name back: “Nice to meet you, John.”
你要記住對(duì)一個(gè)人而言名字是所有語(yǔ)言中最好聽(tīng)最重要的聲音。你可以這樣開(kāi)始聊天：“嗨，我叫Jane，你叫什么名字？”對(duì)方回答之后可以重復(fù)一遍：“John，很高興見(jiàn)到你?！?/div>

5. Acknowledge your acquaintances
5.承認(rèn)跟別人見(jiàn)過(guò)面

If you’ve met someone before reintroduce yourself and say where the two of you met. No matter whether they remember you or not, they’ll be flattered you remembered them.
如果你之前見(jiàn)過(guò)某個(gè)人，可以重新介紹自己并且說(shuō)出之前在哪兒見(jiàn)過(guò)。無(wú)論對(duì)方是否記得你，他們都會(huì)很開(kāi)心你記得他們。

6. Consider what you have in common
6.找到你們的共同點(diǎn)

After the name game, launch into something you and the person you’re talking to can bond over.
一場(chǎng)著名比賽之后，聊點(diǎn)能讓你和跟你聊天的人建立起親密關(guān)系的話(huà)題。

7. Watch your body language
7.注意自己的肢體語(yǔ)言

To look most at ease, lace your fingers together in front of you. Lean in to show interest.
為了看起來(lái)很放松，可以把手指交織放在身前，身體前傾表現(xiàn)出你感興趣。

8. Don’t fire off too many questions
8.不要拋出太多問(wèn)題

Give your new acquaintance enough information about yourself that they can comfortably ask their own questions.
跟新認(rèn)識(shí)的人說(shuō)足夠多關(guān)于你的事，讓他們能輕松地問(wèn)你一些問(wèn)題。

9. Draw on their passions
9.利用他們的熱情

Don’t be afraid to ask follow-up questions like,” Why?” or, “How’d you get started with that?” to encourage them to keep speaking if you’ve hit on a subject the person seems passionate about.
如果你偶然找到一個(gè)對(duì)方好像很感興趣的話(huà)題，不要害怕去問(wèn)下面這樣的問(wèn)題：“為什么？”或者“你是怎么開(kāi)始的？”來(lái)鼓勵(lì)他們繼續(xù)說(shuō)下去。

10. Throw out a hypothetical question
10.拋出一個(gè)假想的問(wèn)題

If you’re in a group setting, such as a wedding table or circle of co-workers, ask a quirky hypothetical question for everyone to discuss.
如果你跟一群人在聊天，比如婚禮的酒桌上或者是一群同事，可以問(wèn)一個(gè)古怪的假想出來(lái)的問(wèn)題讓大家討論一下。

11. Get out gracefully
11.完美收?qǐng)?/strong>

When you notice a conversation starting to slow down, end it on a high note. At a natural pause in the conversation and smile. And, of course, repeat the person’s name: “I’m so glad to have heard about your trip. It was great talking to you, John!”
當(dāng)你注意到對(duì)話(huà)開(kāi)始變慢時(shí)要完美收?qǐng)?。?duì)話(huà)時(shí)自然地停頓并微笑，當(dāng)然還要重復(fù)一下對(duì)方的名字：“我真的很高興聽(tīng)你說(shuō)旅行的事，John，跟你聊天真好!”

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